IT WASN'T ALWAYS EASY. 🥴

When I embarked on my entrepreneurial journey, I was a recent domestic violence survivor without a dollar to my name or confidence in myself, but I was filled with excitement, passion, and a vision for what I wanted to achieve. As soon as I started, reality set in, and I quickly realized that turning dreams into reality is no simple task. The challenges came fast and hard. I was juggling countless responsibilities, trying to manage the demands of my business while still maintaining a semblance of a personal life. The weight of expectations—both my own and those of others—felt crushing at times. Every decision seemed monumental, and the fear of failure was a constant companion. There were moments when I doubted myself, wondering if I was really cut out for this. Sleepless nights became the norm as I wrestled with the uncertainties of running a business.

I faced financial hurdles, moments of isolation, and the daunting task of standing out in a crowded market. It felt like for every step forward, I was pushed two steps back. Yet, deep down, I knew I couldn’t give up. There was a drive within me, a burning desire to make it work no matter what. But the road ahead was anything but clear, and I often found myself questioning whether I had the strength to continue.

The emotional toll was immense. I felt a constant pressure to prove myself, not just to others, but to myself. I worried about making the wrong choices, about missing opportunities, and about letting down the people who believed in me. The highs were exhilarating, but the lows were devastating. There were times when I felt completely overwhelmed, like I was drowning in a sea of tasks, expectations, and self-doubt. I envied those who seemed to have it all figured out, wondering what secret they had that I didn’t. The loneliness of entrepreneurship became all too real as I struggled to find a community that truly understood the unique challenges I faced. I knew that if I didn’t find a way to push through, all my hard work would amount to nothing. But as much as I wanted to succeed, I was plagued by the nagging fear that maybe I wasn’t cut out for this, that maybe I had taken on more than I could handle. 

YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE WHAT HAPPENED. 💣

Then COVID hit, and everything turned upside down. Suddenly, I was homeschooling my kids, juggling with the demands of running a business. On top of that, I was also a full time student. To make matters worse, I lost my biggest client of three years, a devastating blow that left me questioning everything. I was at a crossroads, wondering how I could possibly move forward in the midst of so much uncertainty.

THINGS FINALLY MADE SENSE. ✨

For years, I believed I just needed to work harder. I thought everyone else was somehow better at balancing life, relationships, business, and responsibility than I was. I wondered why routines that worked for other entrepreneurs never seemed to stick for me. Why I could hyperfocus for hours one day and struggle to start the simplest task the next. Why I constantly felt like I was pushing uphill while everyone else seemed to be walking on level ground.

I was late-diagnosed as autistic. That diagnosis didn't change who I was. It gave me language for experiences I'd been living my entire life. Suddenly, so many pieces fell into place. The burnout. The masking. The overwhelm. The perfectionism. The need for systems that actually fit the way my brain works instead of fighting against it. For the first time, I stopped asking, "What's wrong with me?" Instead, I started asking, "What if I built my life around my strengths instead of trying to force myself into someone else's blueprint?" That shift changed everything. I stopped measuring success by how well I could imitate everyone else. I started designing a life and business that honored my capacity, my values, and the way I naturally think. Ironically, the more I stopped trying to become someone else, the more successful I became.

THEN I CREATED THE PRINCIPLES I NOW SHARE WITH EVERY QUEEN. 💜

As I rebuilt my life, I realized success wasn't about becoming more productive or more like everyone else.

It was about becoming more myself.

I created a framework built on self-trust, healthy boundaries, intentional growth, lifelong learning, meaningful relationships, and designing a life that supports the way my brain naturally works.

Those principles became the foundation of Court of Queens.

Today, they're the same principles I use to help other neurodivergent women stop surviving, stop masking, and start building lives they're genuinely excited to wake up to.